How Different Siblings Are Affected by Alcoholism in the Family
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Welcome to First Steps to Al-Anon Recovery from Al-Anon Family Groups. This is a series of podcasts to discuss some common concerns for people who have been affected past someone else'southward drinking.
Today we have Elizabeth with us. Elizabeth is an Al-Anon member and the mother of three sons.
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After listening to this podcast it is how I use my procedure of thinking that I realize it'southward not my doing because I didn't crusade it, I tin can't control information technology and I can't cure all that this disease brings to my alcoholic girl. I will keep to attend my Al-Anon meetings weekly. I have promise for my granddaughters. I haven't seen or heard their voices for a year and a one-half due to the active alcoholism. Information technology hurts. I have non been invited or able to visit them for a year and a half.
Wow. I felt equally if I was listening to myself. I've been attending Al-Anon meetings for a few months at present, and it seems each day I find something else in my life that relates to a story or a Step from these meetings. It'due south incredible to realize that my entire life (I met my hubby at xix and married him at 25…we are currently going through divorce/custody proceedings after 21 years of union) has been all about alcoholism. I made everything in our lives about him–covering upwards with co-workers, family unit, friends, our sons. I lost me. Information technology took ME hitting … Read more »
All the stories sound then familiar. My fiance' has a functioning alcoholic son who at present lives in his own apartment just is always at his dad's house. His begetter is yet enabling him much to my dismay, and he knows he isn't helping him only he does it anyway. I get so frustrated. His begetter takes intendance of his dog, claiming he has shift work and so he can't practice what he needs to have intendance of the canis familiaris. I say he needs to become rid of the dog. I have stopped walking the dog with my fiance' because I feel … Read more than »
Information technology was really good to hear you. I am a child of ii alcoholics. I thought when I had my ii children I was going to exercise it unlike. Now I know command is one of the symptoms of this disease. I passed on everything I learned and didn't learn from living in an alcoholic dwelling house. There were no tools. Everything was a secret and you lot didn't talk almost what was going on, so when I got married and became a rage-aholic I didn't know what was incorrect. Why couldn't I ready everything and everyone? Then I found Al-Anon and … Read more »
Hi, I am a production of an alcoholic and end up hurt many times, since I only concenter drinkers and abusers. And I truly don't know why. I'll be l this month and take ane child at home, who volition be 18 soon. She is disabled. My continued magnetism to all the wrong ones has concluded. I'm accepting the lonely status for sanity reasons. It has effected my children, from my two oldest hating me to non allowed to come across my grandchildren, since I accept rules similar no drinks or drugs immune at my firm. Genetics has to play a … Read more »
I take finally admitted to myself that my husband is an alcoholic. I have swept so many things under the carpeting, trying to keep the family unit together–thinking it is best to live with Mom and Dad, to live in a firm where I am always to arraign for his drinking and bad behaviors, his sneaking out of the business firm or starting a fight and so he can get out and go to the bar. Staying out all dark. If I didn't annoy him. I'g just having fun. I don't want to be miserable like you. What'south the difference, 1 beer or 9. … Read more »
Because my married man found sobriety when our children were fairly young, I wanted to believe that they had not been affected by the affliction of alcoholism in our home. What I didn't fully understand then was that alcoholism is a family unit affliction, one that tin can be passed from generation to generation regardless of whether or non there is the presence of alcohol and alcohol use or abuse inside the abode. I wasn't even aware that the "-isms" were present in my own childhood abode; my parents didn't drink alcohol, and all the same the fact that my mother was raised with agile … Read more »
Elizabeth'south story seems to exist mine to a T. I haven't been to Al-Anon, but I accept been to AA with my married man a few times. My husband is an alcoholic/addict who through the court system, afterward his outset DUI, was forced into treatment. He has now been in treatment and clean and sober for near xc days. I am just now learning how Al-Anon can help me and am thankful for this type of meeting online.
I am fortunate that I have been an Al-Anon member for almost 4 years. It took a very long time for me to go to Al-Anon because I thought when my husband got sober (6yrs) he was therefore 'solved'. Yeah, I was very wrong. Elizabeth's story is very like to my ain and I appreciate her open and honest sharing. To this twenty-four hours it's ane 24-hour interval at a time. Thank y'all. The podcasts are an excellent way to connect with the wider world and I will encourage my fellowship members here in Christchurch, New Zealand, to log on. Yours in … Read more »
My son is dorsum using once more after being clean 11 months. He has been in and out of treatment for the terminal 5 years. During the time he was clean my mom and I co-signed a loan for a car for my son and furniture. What a big mistake that was. He abased the car downtown while using again and sold a t.five. that was worth $ane,000.00. and he did non own the t.five. He has non even made one payment on the t.v. It's gone. My mom and I are in debt thousands of dollars now. I helped pay … Read more »
I sponsor an Alateen meeting in Florida. Alcoholism is a family unit disease and information technology effects
all family members. Al-Anon has given me hope and a meliorate style of living. The teens have shown me courage by coming to their meeting and taught me how to exist truthful. They are a blessing.
This was my first time here online. My boss has lent me the Courage to Change book. I keep it in my handbag and refer to it ofttimes for quiet and promise. I am married to an alcoholic and I have 3 children and a grandson. They are my children from a previous spousal relationship. I left my husband for months because of his drinking, lying, cheating , verbal abuse, tearing outbursts and irresponsibilities. He concluded upwardly in jail for a year and during that time I was correct there for him. Visited him 3 times a week, sent him money, … Read more »
My son has been in and out of treatment for the last five years. He is my only son, an adult child of an alcoholic–his dad. He has been clean for 11 months. I know considering he has lived with me. Dec 1st he moved on his own and left all his AA material here. To my cognition he has not been to a meeting since he moved. His behavior is like when he was using drugs–asking for money and keeping his telephone off. I spoke to my sponsor (I give thanks God every twenty-four hour period she is in my life) with … Read more »
My gosh…I felt similar you were talking about my life…my feelings, and listening to this has actually helped. I am going to get to my offset meeting tonight.
My hubby has been clean for vii months. He was a pharmacist before he got addicted to pharmaceutical drugs. He lost his task a year agone and almost went to jail. He was charged with ii felonies and lost his drivers license for 3 years. We cannot appeal it until May 2010, when he has served ane/2 of the revocation of his license. He does not seem to understand how much anarchy and stress he has put on me. Trying to work full time and get the kids to all the sports and dancing every week has really taken a … Read more »
Cheers, Elizabeth, for the podcast. I know I demand to go to Al-Anon meetings. My married man is an alcoholic and addict. I understand when you said you feel miserable. I experience similar my life revolves effectually his affliction. We have four children, and my life should revolve around them. They should make me so happy and they do until my husband drinks, does drugs, or worse is when he wants to and he picks a fight with me so every bit to have an alibi to apply. I become screwed no matter what. I want so bad to learn to … Read more »
My husband is an agile alcoholic in denial. The beginning of this podcast was nearly equally if the adult female was speaking the thoughts in my head. He's told me outright the drinking is my fault–simply he was doing it some before we met, so it can't be. He makes me and the kids feel similar we're a burden and annoy him. He yells, wastes hundreds of dollars a month, won't shower or castor his teeth for a week while bingeing, and shows no sign of truly wanting to stop. He sometimes says he wants to cease–just then sometimes says he's … Read more »
My husband has a drinking problem. He admits it, just he hasn't made any effort to terminate drinking. When he doesn't drink, he is really smashing to be around. He says it's hereditary from his father. Is that true? I really want to get some answers, considering it'south really fierce my family apart. My 11-year-old hates his dad when he drinks. When he doesn't, he really likes to be around his dad. I really want to go some help for our son and me. We need to learn to help his dad to stop drinking. He has an older son … Read more »
I don't know where to outset. My husband says he has been clean for 8 months, only I all the same tin't stand him. I constitute out he was a heroin addict just after I had my son. I knew he was addicted to pain meds before. I didn't know what addiction was. I thought that going one time to detox and rehab would get rid of it, sort of like the flu. How naive I was! How stupid! Anyway, we have a beautiful, smart, good for you boy. My married man wants to come dorsum dwelling house, but I don't want him to. He tells me … Read more »
Hello. My name is Ann. I married an alcoholic in 1972. Many times in the eye of the nighttime I feared for my life. I was 20 years one-time when we had our baby, Ryan. Often when my husband came habitation from drinking, if he could not get a reaction from me he would become to Ryan's room and wake up our son. One night I caught him throwing him in the air similar a football. I flipped out. At present I know it was the wrong thing to practice. Finally I got the babe in my artillery and left the … Read more »